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Relationship Consultations

As humans, relationships with family members and intimate others are one of the most enriching yet challenging areas of our lives. Without the mirror of relationships we cannot fully become ourselves yet if we have not individuated we cannot be fully in relationship with another.

Hence, relationships are a dance between our deeply programmed desire to merge and fuse with another person, as we did in the womb, and our equally powerful need to separate and individuate. Each of us is challenged in relationship to hold this tension, as inevitably we seek significant others who will help us to work on and attempt to heal our original relationship wounds.

In dealing with relationship issues it can be helpful to remember that although in the Western world most of us grow up with a model of life long relationships, this is neither real nor appropriate for everyone. Ultimately relationships are about self growth, transformation and development, however long they last.

Psychological Astrology is very effective at different stages of your relationship.

Before or during a relationship - an individual consultation will focus on your individual needs in a relationship as well as your relationship patterns -their likely causes and ways of working with them in a constructive manner. It can be helpful to look at our experience of our parents relationship as well as our relationship with our parents. In a seminar at the CPA Liz Greene pointed out how we naturally seek significant others who reflect back to us qualities we admire in our parents as well as challenging aspects of them. In becoming conscious of what these aspects are we are more free to make real choices in our relationships.

If you are in a relationship - the consultation will inform you as as a couple of the impact on each other using Synastry techniques. This clearly outlines what you each awaken in the other through your interactions.  It is often what lies at the base of the initial attraction or repulsion with another. An awareness of these dynamics is the first step in finding ways to work with each others differences and similarities in a constructive manner.

A consultation will also explore with both of you the chart of the relationship (Composite chart) as the third entity that forms when you engage with each other in an ongoing manner. This can be significantly different to either  of your individual charts making it easy or difficult for each of you to relate to the relationship. For example - one individual may need regular time alone whilst the other may prefer to be in company a lot of the time. If the relationship chart has a lot of water and earth the first individual may feel that they are struggling to breath in the relationship even though their partner is away a lot. It is the actual relationship, described by the composite chart, that feels potentially stifling to the first individual.  Understanding the makeup of the composte chart and your individual relationship to it can depersonalise some of the conflicts that arise between you.

The composite chart also gives information as to the underlying purpose of your relationship and  how you might best nourish it. The current transits to your composite chart highlight which aspects of your relationship are currently demanding attention and how you might work with them as a couple. For example: if transiting Saturn is conjunct composite Mercury communication may feel somewhat blocked and hard work yet effort on both your parts in this area will be enhancing for this aspect of the relationship. Understanding the transits will give you a timeline of when it starts and ends as well as the knowledge of how to work with the energies. Knowing that Saturn is sitting on your composite Sun you would be aware of the need to be clearer than usual in your communication.

If your relationship has changed or ended a consultation can help you to understand what the purpose and nature of the relationship was as well as a clearer understanding of what you have learnt from your involvement with the other person. It can also help you gain a clearer perspective on why the relationship came to an end and what you would like in future relationships. This is an excellent time also to look at patterns in past relationships which you may not wish to repeat in the future.

Family Relationships

Whether we have grown up with our family or not our family forms the foundation on which we build adult relationships. Hence it is very useful to have a depth understanding of what our perception and experience entailed. Your natal chart describes clearly your parental archetypes as well as your experience with your siblings. It also describes the ancestral and family heritage you have come into the world with. 

Other Relationships

In understanding your core needs (the moon in your Chart), your perception of life (your Ascendant), how you communicate most comfortably (Mercury), what gives you meaning (Jupiter) and how you relate to others (Venus/Mars), you are in a stronger place to create friendships, work relationships and encounters with people which are life enhancing.

If you are interested in booking a Relationship Consultation please contact me at: 

Margaret Gray MSW D..Psych. Astrology

Margaret@astrologypsychological.com

Tel:  085 8144135 (Ireland)   

Tel: 808 782 7953 (Hawaii, USA)

Skype: margaret2835 

Margaret Gray - Psychological Astrology - Consultations with Individuals, Therapists, Counselors, Analysts, Healers and Teachers. CPA Classes & Workshops.